So you've had enough of being tough....
So you've had enough of being tough....
It’s time to break generational trauma in your family line and heal your hearts + your home. Let’s get real on what’s most important here….
You don’t want your children to have to heal from their childhood, like you did.
You already know you want to do things differently to your parents - the gentleness + softness, the determination to fight for your kids, the deep desire to be so connected to them that you both know undoubtedly your relationship is rock solid.
But your default response is to yell at your kids because they enrage you, but you see on their face how much that hurts them…
Maybe you lock yourself in your room because you can’t deal with your 4 year old’s demands but you KNOW this is not how you want to respond to them when they need something.
You have moments where you say to yourself “Oh gosh, I’m just like my mother!” and feel instant shame and disappointment in yourself because you’ve realised you don’t want your children to heal from their childhood like you have to heal from yours…..
Let’s hit RE-SET, mama and BREATHE….
Gentle guidance. Full heart. Mama mentoring.
For as long as you can remember, you have felt disconnected from your parents, wishing they were more affectionate, caring, or loving towards you….
Whether you grew up as a highly anxious child always worrying about other people’s emotions more than your own, became a teenager who rebelled against everything your parents said because they didn’t care about what you did anyway, or the adult child who wishes your mum played a nurturing role in your life as you’ve journeyed into motherhood yourself….
Your ability to be what your children need, heal your own trauma AND heal your children - it’s in YOU!
It always has been.
The CRUCIAL work you’re doing as a Cycle Breaker will be one of the most DIFFICULT seasons of your life. You will be tested, humbled, challenged and you will be pushed to grow into the mother you were always meant to be….
Your gentleness is there….it might just be hidden underneath the anxiety….
Your softness wants to support your children…..you just need support for you too…
You want to grow and be the mama for your children that you always needed and what they truly need……you just need some guidance to get you there.
But am I even a Cycle Breaker?
If you want to do things differently to how your parents did things…then you’re a Cycle Breaker my friend!
The women I have worked with have all been at different stages in their own healing….but ONE THING they all have in common…..
They want to break the cycle of trauma so their children don’t have to heal from their childhoods like they did.
I believe Cycle Breakers are changing the next generation of children from TRAUMATISED to KNOWING THEY ARE DEEPLY & UNDOUBTEDLY LOVED.
And this is exactly what goes down in ATTUNED.
I’m here to make sure you are grounded in your own healing, rock solid in how you want to mother, and equipped with the coping strategies and parenting skills to heal your hearts + your home.
Home to the Generational Trauma Cycle Breakers
Home to the Generational Trauma Cycle Breakers
The place to heal the mama-child bond, heal your own pain of trauma, and break the patterns your parents passed down.
Where you get to finally be the mama for your little one you always wanted to be
Because have you ever reached out to someone for support because you needed guidance and they made you feel insignificant, less than, and not even deserving of feeling held + supported?
My love, there’s none of that here.
Attuned is 6 healing months with Beth in your corner guiding you to heal from your own trauma as you begin to recognise the patterns and cycles your parents carried down so you can be the cycle breaker your children need.
In Attuned we’re not just wishing and hoping we’re not damaging our kids,
we’re actually healing WITH them!
We are the ones that are doing the work, re-wiring our nervous system, honouring our beautiful sensitivity while breaking subconscious parentings patterns……all while loving ourselves and our children!
6 healing months in Attuned gives you access to:
Once a month we connect (online or in your home) with a 60 minute gentle counselling session with Beth. You can share your vision for your family, what kind of mama you want to be + your barriers to getting there, how we can simplify your rhythms so you can start taking care of you too, mindset shifts in motherhood + dropping the mental load, and practical trauma-informed parenting strategies to heal your home + hearts.
6 gentle Counselling Sessions with Beth every month for 6 months
Here’s what we get to work on over the next 6 months in session:
Month 1 - Family Foundations
Let’s resurface your vision of the kind of mama you want to be + what barriers are getting in the way of you getting there. We’ll set up a simple self-care rhythm so you can start taking care of you first. We’ll also learn how your child’s development + your own trauma is impacting your connection and how you can move around this to start healing.
Month 2 - Coping Strategies, Connection + Compassion
We’ll identify 1-2 subconscious parenting patterns here that were carried on down from your parents and how you can change the script for your child through deep, unwavering connection. We’ll build on your coping skills and self-care rhythms to really solidify them without feeling guilty! #bliss And no, this does NOT involve getting your nails done each week haha.
Month 3 - Healing Acts of Love
This month we get to focus on changing the atmosphere in your home! You are the heart of the home, mama and you have a huge pull in how your home functions. Let’s include parenting practices that are allll about the love, baby! And without exhausting you. Winning! We’ll explore how your children FEEL + KNOW your love for them is rock solid so you can implement these acts of love easily in your daily routine.
Month 4 - Healing the Little Girl
Ooff. This is a big month. With some coping strategies + self-care up your sleeve, this month we’re healing the little girl that missed out on all the love when she was little. We’ll gently go back to what she was like, who she was and re-build her sense of safety so she can move forward in parenting + loving her children now. Let’s fill in the gaps that you were aways missing and be that safe big person you always needed.
Month 5 - Passed Down Parenting Patterns
This is the month we focus big on healing generational trauma. We can really dive into the patterns you remember as a child on how your parents coped while noticing how subconsciously you continue those same patterns. We’ll work through alternative parenting patterns that are HEALING not harmful!
Month 6 - Protective Parenting + Emotional Literacy
In this final month we’ll work through how to become a protective barrier for traumatic experiences so that when your child goes through hard things, they will know undoubtedly that they will be OK - AND know that you have their back. You will also learn how to create emotional safety for your child while building up their emotional literacy. Emotions will become so normal in your home that there will be no shame in feeling them! Yay for no more suppressing!!
Audio Teachings
Monthly trainings and lessons on healing the mama child bond, coping strategies, reducing generational trauma, healing the inner child and so much more! Everything we cover in our counselling sessions but is more detail with real life examples that I do in my home.
Reflective Journals
Each month you will receive a reflective journal to dive deeper into your experiences, parenting patterns, childhood, and how you envision your children healing. This is the deep inner work that is crucial to healing your hearts + home.
Zoom Q & A
Every month or two there will be a Zoom Q&A where you can bring your questions, concerns and any celebrations you want to share! You can ask me personal questions about how we do things in our home too.
Join for $139 AUD monthly for 4 months
Come say hi
Come say hi
I was sitting on my couch, my 4 year old was at kinder and my newborn baby girl was sleeping. I had just made myself a cuppa tea and sat down to begin a hardcore study sesh. The topic? DEVELOPMENT PSYCHOLOGY. I opened the textbook and began reading the required chapters. I read about the various attachment styles, how it can impact us into adulthood and how attachment styles forms the brain and healthy development - or lack of. I read about anxious, avoidant, secure and disorganised attachment styles. I read about how each style presents in children and adults alike. I read about how attachment styles can impact generations without anything changing. And it suddenly hit me. I was continuing the same attachment style that my mother and grandmother carried out. I was repeating the same patterns.
I began to sob.
How did I not know this? How did I let this happen with my baby boy? The love of my life? How could I have been so disconnected from his needs that I’ve now impacted him in BIG ways for the rest of his life!? I’ve spent the last 14 years repairing those early ruptures, healing what I broke (albeit unknowingly) for my son. I’ve worked so hard. WE have worked so hard. Maybe you’ve been where I was. Unknowingly becoming so disconnected and misattuned to your children that you wonder how they became strangers to you? Maybe you yell too much, you’re overwhelmed, angry or you shut down. Maybe you lock yourself away just to escape it all. Maybe you see the same patterns your mother carried out, maybe you feel “just like her”.
My hope is that you don’t experience anymore of these “failure” moments because, mama - YOU ARE A CYCLE BREAKER! And I’m here to help you break ‘em.
Big hugs,
Bethany xo
Trauma Therapist, Mama of 4 and Cycle Breaker